Dating in your forties blog

If not, what exactly are we going to talk about for 12 weeks? I tell each one the same exact thing: “If you’re dating a few men right now and can guarantee me that you’ll have at least one date a week for the duration of our time together, we can start coaching.As a dating coach for women over 40, I know finding love the second time around (or even the first) is not easy.

You’ve been in relationships before and you may want one now, but for whatever reason you haven’t found the right person yet.

Maybe you’re divorced and frustrated with dating or haven’t ventured back out to the dating pool.

Or so Carrie Bradshaw would have you believe; and she is mostly right.

But for me, and my three best friends, the key word is “want” rather than need.

You could be a widow and unsure of ever finding another man like your husband.

Perhaps you were in a live-in or long-term relationship that ended, so you’re single again.

There a couple of things one can do to meet people, particularly if over 40. Eat out, grab coffee, and hang out at different places each week.

Go to any party you're invited to, join clubs with people who do what you like to do, volunteer, get involved socially. As a dating coach, I know that people resist it because they're scared to try something so unfamiliar to them.

It’s about attracting men, understanding men, and making them want to stick around forever and ever. As to where you meet men, yes, there’s one place that’s more effective in making introductions than 100 visits to Whole Foods and Art History class combined.

So if it’s not already abundantly clear, dating advice is not about WHERE to meet men.

But it's like anything else – there's a way to do it successfully, and it's a great way to meet people you wouldn't normally meet.

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