Dating youger men
I am fortunate to have a wonderful longtime partner (who, as an educator, knows all about small salaries), but I sometimes wonder what would happen if I lost my job and was looking for love — would I be marriage material (assuming I even wanted to marry again, that is, which I don’t), or even dateable? ); by virtue of my gender alone, yes — I would probably be viable relationship material.But if I were an unemployed man — regardless of age — would the same rules apply?
The Good Men Project recently pondered, what’s a man without money? I’ve never been one to focus on money — my own or someone else’s — or see it as a path to happiness.
Now that I’m at midlife, however, and helping to get two kids through college, hoping to retire one day, and dealing with the never-ending costs of living (my broken clavicle cost me of money, despite my health insurance, and my car appears to have an electrical problem, no doubt a pricey problem, that I need to deal with ASAP), I think about money a wee bit more.
Among the interesting questions posed: What happens when a man marries a woman who has the education and skills to earn more than him? In such couples, surveys show, both wife and husband generally report being less happy about the marriage.
The couple can avoid violating the “man earns more” social norm if the woman works part time or leaves the labor force altogether. But what if the woman stays in the labor force and earn more than her spouse? tweet So, here’s how it appears to work: Unemployed, under-employed and low-paid women are still dateable and marriage material, while guys are not.
Each example disgusts me anew in a way that’s probably not entirely defensible: I think I might be angrier about these couples than I am about a good many important political issues.
I know, I know: Why care that two consenting adults are canoodling when a demagogue is about to take the White House?We live in a time where many of us pour tons of time and money into staving off the signs of aging—whether that means dutifully applying eye serum every night before bed, or hitting up your derm for some preventative Botox in your twenties.But some disturbing data shows that as women, if we want to be attractive as we age, the best thing we can do is really just not age past 20.Every day, there seems to be another outrageous new celebrity coupling announced via pictures of some May-December frolicking: Jennifer Lawrence sharing a lollipop with Darren Aronofsky; Sean Penn dating Vincent D’Onofrio’s daughter; Mel Gibson having his ninth child with his 26-year-old girlfriend; Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen double-dating with their 47-year-old and 58-year-old respective beaus; Leonardo Di Caprio’s sending another lady-love packing upon her reaching the ripe old age of 25.Online dating stats bare out that average joes are just as enamored with younger women as their famous counterparts.Thumbnails are automatically generated from the pictures.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating