Mutual benefit dating

He says I help him enjoy life instead of rushing through it and that I bring him balance.He loves that he can also be himself in my company.

I thought I was at a disadvantage for finding love.

After reading your book, I realized I actually did many things that were goddess-like, but I should have more confidence.

Another version of invulnerability is total self-sufficiency. And finally, another version of invulnerability is being impervious to harm: “My armor’s so thick, nothing can hurt me!

“I can totally take care of myself.” This is yet another flavor of off-putting – especially to a guy. If you have everything and need nothing, that doesn’t leave them with anything to do. ” Except that the armor that blocks the bad stuff also keeps out good stuff like love, affection and intimacy.

A girl with RA was able to climb 10 and 12 ft rock facings because this man was patient enough to talk me through a climb or offer a boost or some stability when I needed it. Vulnerability, knowing that you are needed, receiving gratitude for what you give to fill that need – that is the stuff that feeds love. I just leaves me breathless to live in it and see him grin ear to ear when he helps me with something as simple as tying a shoe.

Thank you for encouraging the pursuit of balance and not hiding from our own flaws. I found such peace in your words and share them with many of my girl friends. Everything just passes through you when there’s nothing to hold on to.

I’m well educated, have a diverse set of interests, attractive, unable to have children because of my RA medicines and felt that the chances were not in my favor for finding someone that would care about me as more than a friend.

In my life, I have been blessed with friends that are fiercely loyal.

I spent 12 years with a man that couldn’t decide to marry me.

I knew our problems weren’t all his fault and wanted a chance to start out right should I meet someone.

Why do you think the image of the damsel in distress is so iconic? And it’s just hard (and a little scratchy) to hug someone wearing chain mail.

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